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itur_ad_astra) wrote2019-03-30 03:55 pm
itur_ad_astra) wrote2019-03-30 03:55 pm
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Babylon 5 fandom: why do people always assume the worst?
So here's a 'funny' one.
Over on AO3, I was invited to join dreamwidth by another person there so we could PM, since AO3 does not have this feature, and I did but found out to my dismay that DW removed the dashes from my username rendering it IturAdAstra, an imperfect match for my A03 (Itur_Ad_Astra). Sooo I created a new DW profile the same day (this was like a month ago) with the correct rendering so I could be easier to find.
Fast forward one month into the future and a DW user who also has commented on my AO3 work strictly to tell me off, is literally butchering me, by name on one of her PUBLIC posts. Slandering someone by name, in public, is frankly low, and hurtful. So I reply to a handful of commentators (I'd note, civilly, without the name calling they were getting up to) in an effort to clarify the positions I have which were wildly distorted, to say nothing of my character. I mean, it's a public post, my username works to post....
And now I am drawing fire for commenting on a place where I'm "clearly not welcome" and "creating a new username to get around a block". BULL
First off, " clearly not welcome "? I take that to mean private posts and posts where the author HAS blocked your username, this was neither.
Oh, sure I guessed that the OP might turn around and block my uname, (as is their right, no probs there) after the fact since they clearly liked their verbal lynching (for a whole host of false accusations) to be one-sided, but fact is they hadn't.
And regarding the new username BS, I actually had both since the very same day, this one first, as anyone can verify by looking at when I listed it in my AO3 comments, as can everyone I've been chatting with on this account since then. I happened to sign in to this one since the other has the more difficult password (written down at home, so I have to be home to use it), and posted with no problems, so far, so boring.
But I never ran into a block to get around.
Now the OP, fanning the flames as usual with supposition, is accusing me that I ran into her supposedly extant pre-emptive block from before the fact, something I did NOT do,
But of course, people are just picking up the accusation on thread and running with it, instead of taking the 30 seconds needed to actually check and find out it's total BS, or at least remind themselves "innocent until proven guilty".
Oh, they insist they are not just taking the OP's word for it, but they propagate the pathetically easy to disprove and frankly bizarre accusations in every line.
Again, this DW account PREDATES my other one.
Not the first time this has happened either.
Most of this rage has been based around the purely speculative accusation by the OP that I sock puppeted three different people, one the OP who's been shredding me (supposedly, there are no comments to speak of, but AO3 does allow for deletion, so I'll take their word on it), one possibly me, and one God(s) know(s) who.
Since the OP couldn't have possibly gotten the notifs in her inbox, how on earth did she even hear of them?. Was she monitoring everybody's comments to everybody else?
Strange...
But anyway, point is, I didn't. For one thing I don't comment on fic that's not my jam, and the OP's isn't. I'm not the kind of person who opens a convo just to disagree, much less attack somebody, which is more than I can say about the OP. Second, if I have something to say, I'll say it as myself. It's a point of integrity.
But the real irony is that the dozen or so people who jumped on me, by name, to condemn me for this supposed behavior, (including people who I'd started to consider potential friends) all are condemning me based on the highly speculative accusation that I got up to that kind of sleaziness, and rather than attacking the third parties or party they indeed have a puppet problem, squarely have placed the blame on me for the fun of it.
That's.... A whole new low.
I mean, I can see if they were upset, assuming someone was profane or abusive, but it's darn unfair to take that out on me.
Gee, if we are to start accusing people based on a theory, then for all I know the person who commented on my work and might have triggered this lynching was the OP setting me up to take the fall for their sock puppeting. To say nothing of the person who has sent to my email inbox (also on AO3, big mistake) a variety of extremely abusive letters for several days now, or the person who falsely reported my work on ffnet for a "content violation" which I have contested and is now pending review.
Point is, though, even with all this, I'm not going to run off and start pretending I have a charge to level at the OP for what may well be other people. And I'm expressly asking that nobody does either. For one thing it's unfair, for another I'll catch the flac for it.
I'm also not going to go and accuse people on a theory or a coincidence, and I'm not going to contract coincidence into causality just so I can make myself feel better that only one person might ever disagree with me, or something. And that anyone who (presumably) disagrees with me is one spiteful ass just trying to heckle me.
Over on AO3, I was invited to join dreamwidth by another person there so we could PM, since AO3 does not have this feature, and I did but found out to my dismay that DW removed the dashes from my username rendering it IturAdAstra, an imperfect match for my A03 (Itur_Ad_Astra). Sooo I created a new DW profile the same day (this was like a month ago) with the correct rendering so I could be easier to find.
Fast forward one month into the future and a DW user who also has commented on my AO3 work strictly to tell me off, is literally butchering me, by name on one of her PUBLIC posts. Slandering someone by name, in public, is frankly low, and hurtful. So I reply to a handful of commentators (I'd note, civilly, without the name calling they were getting up to) in an effort to clarify the positions I have which were wildly distorted, to say nothing of my character. I mean, it's a public post, my username works to post....
And now I am drawing fire for commenting on a place where I'm "clearly not welcome" and "creating a new username to get around a block". BULL
First off, " clearly not welcome "? I take that to mean private posts and posts where the author HAS blocked your username, this was neither.
Oh, sure I guessed that the OP might turn around and block my uname, (as is their right, no probs there) after the fact since they clearly liked their verbal lynching (for a whole host of false accusations) to be one-sided, but fact is they hadn't.
And regarding the new username BS, I actually had both since the very same day, this one first, as anyone can verify by looking at when I listed it in my AO3 comments, as can everyone I've been chatting with on this account since then. I happened to sign in to this one since the other has the more difficult password (written down at home, so I have to be home to use it), and posted with no problems, so far, so boring.
But I never ran into a block to get around.
Now the OP, fanning the flames as usual with supposition, is accusing me that I ran into her supposedly extant pre-emptive block from before the fact, something I did NOT do,
But of course, people are just picking up the accusation on thread and running with it, instead of taking the 30 seconds needed to actually check and find out it's total BS, or at least remind themselves "innocent until proven guilty".
Oh, they insist they are not just taking the OP's word for it, but they propagate the pathetically easy to disprove and frankly bizarre accusations in every line.
Again, this DW account PREDATES my other one.
Not the first time this has happened either.
Most of this rage has been based around the purely speculative accusation by the OP that I sock puppeted three different people, one the OP who's been shredding me (supposedly, there are no comments to speak of, but AO3 does allow for deletion, so I'll take their word on it), one possibly me, and one God(s) know(s) who.
Since the OP couldn't have possibly gotten the notifs in her inbox, how on earth did she even hear of them?. Was she monitoring everybody's comments to everybody else?
Strange...
But anyway, point is, I didn't. For one thing I don't comment on fic that's not my jam, and the OP's isn't. I'm not the kind of person who opens a convo just to disagree, much less attack somebody, which is more than I can say about the OP. Second, if I have something to say, I'll say it as myself. It's a point of integrity.
But the real irony is that the dozen or so people who jumped on me, by name, to condemn me for this supposed behavior, (including people who I'd started to consider potential friends) all are condemning me based on the highly speculative accusation that I got up to that kind of sleaziness, and rather than attacking the third parties or party
That's.... A whole new low.
I mean, I can see if they were upset, assuming someone was profane or abusive, but it's darn unfair to take that out on me.
Gee, if we are to start accusing people based on a theory, then for all I know the person who commented on my work and might have triggered this lynching was the OP setting me up to take the fall for their sock puppeting. To say nothing of the person who has sent to my email inbox (also on AO3, big mistake) a variety of extremely abusive letters for several days now, or the person who falsely reported my work on ffnet for a "content violation" which I have contested and is now pending review.
Point is, though, even with all this, I'm not going to run off and start pretending I have a charge to level at the OP for what may well be other people. And I'm expressly asking that nobody does either. For one thing it's unfair, for another I'll catch the flac for it.
I'm also not going to go and accuse people on a theory or a coincidence, and I'm not going to contract coincidence into causality just so I can make myself feel better that only one person might ever disagree with me, or something. And that anyone who (presumably) disagrees with me is one spiteful ass just trying to heckle me.